The Ways of The Inner-"Whiner"

What do you get when you combine the inner-critic with the inner-victim? 

The inner- whiner!

In the World of Thought there are many different voices. Instead of categorising them in good or bad, I prefer to discern whether they are helpful or unhelpful. That is something we need to decide individually. 

The voice of the Whiner combines criticism and victimisation. Let me paint a picture... 

Imagine you hear that inner voice telling you all the things are going wrong or not well enough, pointing out what you are not doing good enough or should be doing way better by now, pointing out what others are failing in. The voice that questions each decision and undermines each accomplishment, or tells you off for not accomplishing more or being more successful. 
Then, on top of that, the victim speaks. Blaming yourself, blaming others, seeking fault and someone to hold responsible, pointing out reasons why you are being held back or blocked. Seeing yourself as stuck, seeing only obstacles as if people or circumstances are against you. There is a sense of powerlessness. 

The inner-whiner will complain about things, with a sense of hopelessness & defeat. It will go through entire lists of dissatisfaction. Nothing (much) will change, and the loop repears itself over & over again. 

I talk about this with my clients. Sometimes it takes a long time until that pattern can really be broken. The inner-whiner can be deeply rooted by strong beliefs and behaviours of constant procrastination. Ideas & desires that just sit there, adding to the list of things that have been thought up, but simply do not get done or transform into actual action.
The Whiner generally reflects a person's belief/perspective of their inability to create desired change. Whether to do with a certain situation or their own feelings. 

All of this, as you may imagine, only contributes to a downward pulling mindset into a range of low vibrational frequencies. This only increases the tendency to continue to judge people & circumstances as being good or bad. It keeps you in the victim-mentality of powerlessness. 

So what can possibly help?

- First of all it's important to remind yourself, you are a CREATOR. You hold the power to change, you hold the key to your experience. Change can simply be changing your perspective on something, or taking action to do something different, or deciding to let something go. 
️It may help to actually say the affirmation out loud "I AM a Creator" in any moment you feel the Whiner close in on you with complaints of powerlessness, dissatisfaction, disappointment or defeat.

️- It may also be helpful to do something that you know will help you raise your vibrational frequency. Get intune with the universal wisdom of your Higher Consciousness and rise up to see the bigger picture from a higher perspective. 
️Meditate, pray, be still and ask for guidance and clarity. 

️- Become aware of your expectations. Reevaluate them, adjust them, voice them or let them go. Instead of beating yourself up about unfulfilled achievements or plans, and carrying the weight of it with you from day to day... focus on what you are able to do now, be proud of what you are managing now, and trust & intend that all the other desires you have will call your attention in the moments you have the space and energy for them. 

When we allow it all to come from a place of divine inspiration & sincere enthusiasm, our experience will be so much more enjoyable. 

Just a perspective from my soul flow in this Now.
​With love, Kaiyann